It’s been five months since my last post. I’ve been meaning to post here but, life. Today I brushed the dust off this site and realized, “Crap! Almost half a year’s gone by!” I may have broken a personal (non)blogging record by waiting so long.
Anyway, quickie update. I’m just gonna post the highlights, forget about editing it (I agonize over editing and end up erasing much of what I’d written), and go about my day.
Here’s the highlights:
TTC: My eight-year foray into TTC Land is drawing to a painfully slow crawl. For instance, I have become completely unreliable about using my fertility monitor and OPKs—some months I do, other months it feels like an exercise in futility. I haven’t BBT temped in one year now and have no plans to return, either.
I sought out a new doc earlier this summer about my intermesntrual bleeding, ongoing ovary pain, ongoing infertility, blah blah blah. As per usual, he was utterly unhelpful. At the end of the appointment, he said, “I’ll see you next year. Unless you get pregnant—then call me.” I wanted to smack him. I left the appointment feeling all of the usual deflated frustration that accompanies each fruitless medical visit I’ve been to. I won’t be calling him again. Ever.
Pregnancy: Today my period is four days late. Maybe that has something to do with suddenly inspiring me to update here, some subconscious reaction? Don’t get excited, people: I actually (foolishly?) took a pregnancy test this morning, which is something I never do. It was just the one line. I sat there on the toilet seat at 5:00 a.m. holding that single-lined sucker up to the light at every.possible.angle, but still it remained negative. And the couple of times I fished the used test from the trashcan (because we all do that, no?) it was just as negative as the first time.
Today I’m reminded of why I never take HPTs and hate them so very, very much—I really dislike the feeling associated with negative pregnancy tests. A lot. It brings back some bad crap. At least a period saves me from the feelings that HPTs arouse.
Why is my period four days late? Who knows! My cycles are normally predictable and regular to a fault. Just one of those months, maybe? Or maybe I’m getting near menopause? Sometimes I think that might not be all bad…
Surgery: I have decided not to plan any more surgeries for the time being. I can’t seem to find a doctor worth his or her salt, so all future surgeries are on halt. Also, I’m tired of having surgeries. It seems that surgery has never done anything to alleviate my endometriosis symptoms, so why bother having it done?
Boobs: This morning I had my third mammogram and boob ultrasound! I woke up last Thanksgiving to horrific one-sided breast pain and it never left since. I’ve had a slew of mammos and u/s since that time, and but all the docs ever find wrong with my mammaries are benign cysts. Lots and lots and lots of benign cysts—seven at last count just in one boob alone! Two of them look “complex,” so the docs monitor me every six months to keep an eye on them. The docs tells me that the cysts are most likely inflamed, which probably accounts for the pain.
It goes without saying that I am grateful for this report. “Only” boob cysts are good(ish) news! At the same time, it’s also extremely frustrating, because breast cysts are so random and elusive: No one seems to know why they happen, when they happen, why they only happen to some women, why they sometimes hurt and sometimes don’t, why they get inflamed, and whether they will go away and/or come back.
The doc offered to aspirate the cysts at my next follow up, which is basically all they can do for breast cysts. Aspiration does nothing to prevent the cysts from returning/filling back up with fluid. I think I’ll pass on that one.
Also, side note: boob smooshing hurts. So does cyst smooshing. Being a woman is often a painful endeavor.
Childlessness: The doozy of all updates! Jake and I are hanging out in some kind of no-man’s land of fertility. Most months, we try for a baby; each month, we fail. But it’s become a kind of “expected” fail. Don’t get me wrong, the accompanying disappointment of failure is always real each month, but it’s briefer and less intense.
We are moving on in our own way and accepting our life as Childless Not By Choice. It’s not all bad. I’ve been reading books on the subject, which definitely help me to feel less alone.
Whelp, that about does it. This is perhaps one of my most boring posts to date, so kudos to you if you’re still here reading it! I’ll try not to let another five months slip by before updating again.